The Childish Behavior That Ruins Adult Relationships
The School of Life
Oct 7, 2026 13:00
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Behind so many of the troubles of love lies a frustrating mystery: why do they behave the way they do? Late at night, we might write them off as mean, lazy, or actively trying to ruin our lives. Start your free Membership trial – 2,000+ articles, 1,000+ videos, 50+ courses, free for a week: https://www.theschooloflife.com/membership
The truth is much deeper: they are still behaving like the clever children they once were, using brilliant survival strategies that have simply run on for decades too long. In this film, we explore how our childhood adaptations quietly poison our adult romances—and how a little understanding can transform our fury into compassion.
"Behind so many of the troubles of love lies a mystery: why do they behave as they do? Why won't they signal their intentions clearly? Why are they so theatrical, so focused on their friends, so unable to relax? It isn't that we lack explanations. Especially after eleven at night, it's very clear what they're up to. They're not trying. They're mean. They're stupid. They're out to ruin our lives..."
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